Wednesday, September 17, 2014

Making Minor Musings: Labels

Excuse me for just a moment while I climb on my soap box.....okay here we go.

 Yes I am going to express one of my "passions" my "pet peeve" or whatever you want to call it. It's called Labeling.  Yes Labeling. .  I understand it's human nature, and I know I am guilty at times.

I have a friend that has a labeling machine.  It's very cool.  It labels THINGS.  Labeling THINGS is helpful for filing etc.   It provides useful information for those of who can read:)

Describing people can be useful if we are using it to gather needed information.   I think the difference between describing and labeling is when there is unfair judgment involved .

Yes, I am guilty of it.  When I was in college, I remember walking towards a building heading to a class.  A guy in front of me was tattooed, dressed rough (this was 25 years ago, this is a little more normal now:/).  I remember thinking to myself, "eww"  and thinking what a rough and "bad' guy he must be.  It was about then he approached the door, smiled at me, and held it open for me.  I felt like an inch tall as I filed into the door and then had a great guilt trip and chew out session with myself after that.  

Why do we do that?  Leo Buscaglia, one of my heroes states this about labeling and stereotyping:

"  Labels are distancing phenomena. They push us away from each other. Black man. What’s a black man? I’ve never known two alike. Does he love? Does he care? What about his kids? Has he cried? Is he lonely? Is he beautiful? Is he happy? Is he giving something to someone? These are the important things. Not the fact that he is a black man or Jew or 
Dago or Communist or Democrat or Republican."

I volunteer at a place that serves the homeless.  Homeless.   Label alert!  What do we think of when we hear the word "homeless"?  Loser?  Drug Addict? Ashamed?  OR  Child of God in need of help?  Hopefully the latter.   I  have probably labeled them as such at times, but I now I cannot.  These people are amazing people with circumstances out of our judgement zone that necessitate where they are in life. 

Mother Teresa states:  "If you judge people, you have no time to love them"

Of course, the greatest example is Jesus Christ, who looked past the labels, the social stereotypes and simply loved.

I willl now come down from my soapbox and try to follow His example.

Wednesday, September 3, 2014

Wednesday Words: Faith and Prayer

Having major writer's block lately.  I don't think it's because I don't have anything to say, it's because I have too much to say and it's all swirling in my head. Although I love to organize, I cannot seem to organize my head.:)

But I am going to try.  I talked about revelation last time, and how I sometimes don't know if I get it.  Sometimes I don't get faith.  I remember at the end of mission I expressed this to my mission president.  I remember this wise man said to me basically it's somewhat of a mystery.  

We can pray in faith for miracles, yet sometimes they come, sometimes they don't.  I remember when I was going through my nightmare last year, at first I prayed, and I prayed hard for the pain to end, and yet I never felt like I was heard.  It hurt to know God was watching me suffer and yet unwilling ( in my mind) to do anything about it.  

So I quit praying.  I know, judge all you want, but in all in honesty, anytime I did anything "spiritual" the torment would increase.  So for survival, I backed off being spiritual which was one of the hardest things to do because living the Gospel is everything to me, and yet I felt unable to at that time.  My daughter asked me about my 2013 Depression (that's what we'll call it) the other day and I said it felt like someone had ripped out my soul.

Now that I'm much much better, I'm back at living the Gospel and loving it, yet as I wrestled with the whole revelation thing last month, I realize my faith in prayer is a little shaky.  Yes I pray, and I pray a lot for others, and sometimes I pray as if it's an after thought for God to fulfill the deep desires of my heart.   It's kinda like, " you know if you have time, and get around to it, please answer this prayer". 

So on Pinterest the other day;), I found a great quote by Elder Holland:

God is eagerly waiting for the chance to answer your prayers and fulfill your dreams, just as He always has. But He can’t if you don’t pray, and He can’t if you don’t dream. In short, He can’t if you don’t believe.

 That really hit me and I felt of it's truthfulness.  God wants to answer my prayers.  He loves me!  And I need to have faith, but first, I need the Lord "to help my unbelief" (Mark 9:24)  
I am working on it and know my Heavenly Father will have patience with me and is waiting to help me fulfill my dreams.